Family therapy and counseling in Hawaii

Client-focused, not one-size fits all. It's all about relationships. I'm here to listen and perhaps gently guide. I use psychodynamic, cognitive behavioral and Gottman technique with couples.

• I believe therapy can be a space for healing, growth, and even laughter. My goal is to help you reconnect with yourself, find your voice, and bring out the parts of you that may have gotten lost along the way. I work with clients ages 5 and up and strive to create a warm, welcoming environment where you can feel safe being yourself. Therapy is your journey, and I’m here to support and walk alongside you as you navigate it.

I am open, approachable, and committed to listening carefully to your experiences without judgment. I believe that each person carries a unique story, and my goal is to provide a supportive space where you feel heard, understood, and encouraged as you navigate life’s challenges and opportunities for growth. Together, we can explore what is most important to you and work toward creating a life that feels meaningful, authentic, and aligned with your values.

My background includes earning a Ph.D. from the University of California, Berkeley, along with a lifelong appreciation for personal growth, nature, and the healing power of connection. Growing up learning to surf fostered a deep respect for the ocean and the lessons it offers about resilience, balance, and adapting to life's changing conditions. These experiences have shaped my belief in the importance of honoring each individual’s journey and recognizing that growth often comes through both challenge and reflection.

It's not easy starting therapy and investing time in yourself, but you've already done the first step! My experience has primarily been focused in clients with eating disorders and co-occurring diagnoses. With that said, I also have extensive experience working with relationship challenges, anxiety, self-harm, and suicidality. I generally like to pull from my knowledge of various therapy modalities such as DBT, CBT, FBT and EFFT. I also really enjoy self-compassion work. Your goals are always my top priority, and I am here to support you every step of the way.

Outside of work, I enjoy live music, spending time with friends, and hanging out with my dogs, Nala and Toni. These personal interests help me stay grounded and bring balance to my life, which I believe is crucial for overall well-being.

If you're ready to take the next step, I'm here to help you navigate your journey towards healing and growth. Let's work together to achieve your goals!

Life's challenges—whether anxiety, trauma, relationship struggles, or questions of meaning and identity—can feel overwhelming, but you don't have to navigate them alone.

Whether you're facing a specific challenge or seeking deeper personal understanding, I'm here to walk alongside you with warmth, respect, compassion honesty and hope.

You deserve support that honors your whole self—your story, your values, and your potential. Ready to take the first step? I invite you to reach out and begin your journey toward greater well-being and authenticity.

As a licensed counselor with a PhD in Counseling and Counselor Supervision, I bring both over 25 years’ experience, expertise and genuine compassion to my work with adults, couples, families, and older adults.

I have published and presented locally, regionally, nationally and internationally on various counseling areas and since I also teach I am current on research in the field of mental health counseling.

I specialize in supporting individuals through anxiety, depression, trauma, adjustment disorders, relationship concerns, existential questions, and the unique experiences of LGBTQ+ individuals and those exploring alternative lifestyles of any Kind.

Dr. Joe McSpillman

I currently accept individual adult clients only through Headway. I do not provide couples or family therapy through this platform at this time.

I am a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who works with individuals, couples, and LGBTQ+ clients seeking deeper self-understanding, emotional healing, and more connected relationships. My approach is warm, relational, trauma-informed, and grounded in the belief that healing happens through safety, honesty, and meaningful connection.

I specialize in relationship therapy, anxiety, depression, identity exploration, attachment wounds, complex trauma, and psychedelic assisted psychotherapy. I also support clients navigating life transitions, grief, shame, self-worth, communication challenges, and patterns that keep them feeling stuck or disconnected from themselves and others.

My work draws from Emotionally Focused Therapy, the Gottman Method, Internal Family Systems, somatic awareness, humanistic and existential therapy, and trauma-informed care. I help clients slow down, listen inward, understand their patterns, and develop more compassionate and empowered ways of relating.

As a queer-affirming therapist, I am especially passionate about supporting LGBTQ+ clients and relationships. I strive to create a space where clients can bring their full selves—without judgment—and explore healing in a way that honors their identities, histories, relationships, spirituality, and lived experience.

Are you feeling anxious, stressed, or just need someone to talk to? You've come to the right place. Throughout our lifetime, we are faced with many challenges, barriers, and successes that can all have their own level of overwhelmingness and joy. Whatever you are going through, let's work through it together.

I have over 30 years of clinical, counseling and administrative experience working with individuals and couples, addressing the unique issues related to their unique life experiences. I have extensive professional and personal experience with military families and veterans. I understand first-hand the struggles of grief and medical conditions that impact all aspects of life. I have supported chronically and terminally ill patients, individuals living with cancer or chronic medical diagnoses, as well as parents experiencing infertility, peripartum, and postpartum depression. Whether dealing with life transitions, parenting, depression, anxiety, or divorce, or simply seeking to express yourself and feel more confident, I am here to walk with you, provide insights, and support you toward lasting change.