Making the decision to begin therapy or counselling can be anxiety provoking. It is important, therefore, to find the right therapist for you, as this is a vital element of the psychotherapeutic process. Finding a therapist or counsellor you feel safe with and with whom you have a sense of connection will enable you to explore the issues that are concerning you. Psychotherapy and counselling is a collaborative process where your current problems are explored in-depth.
Think of the mind as an iceberg: the conscious mind is the very tip of the iceberg and the huge mass that is hidden under the depths of the sea is the unconscious.
Psychotherapy and counselling was born out of this theory and implies that there is an unconscious dimension to who we are. The depth of the unconscious is something that we are unaware of: repressed feelings and emotions, desires, thoughts and memories which can be unpleasant and cause us to feel pain, anxiety or conflict.
Our work is based on the idea that our past experiences, behaviours and relationships affect who we are today. These can often result in a feeling of ‘stuckness’ in the present. Unravelling the conflicts that result from this ‘stuckness’ is fundamental to the process of understanding ourselves and how we relate to others. To make the unconscious conscious enables you to have more of an insight into who you are. Therefore, the aim of psychotherapy is to help you make sense of your current situation and of the feelings, thoughts and associated memories that have brought about this situation.
During our sessions together, feelings, thoughts, images and dreams can be explored to help you gain a deeper understanding of how you relate to yourself and to others, and why they may be affecting you. It is important to go through this process in order to change and not repeat the patterns of behaviour that have caused you to seek therapy.
The need for confidentiality and privacy will be respected and maintained.